正视家暴零容忍 老婆打老公也不行

20160825ou 今日话题： 最近报道显示：婚内妇女对男性的家暴案件数量有所上升。 LW: A survey done by the All-China Women’s federation shows that women against men domestic violence cases have been increasing in the country. LK: The survey said that compared with physical violence, what is more unacceptable is verbal abuse by their spouse. The Guangzhou branch of the All-China Women’s federation did a survey that listed 20 cases of domestic violence where women have been abusing men. In one particular case the wife has been abusing the husband for 13 years. On an extreme occasion, the wife woke up and found that the TV was not turned off and stayed on the entire night. She then slapped her husband in the face. In another case the wife owns a business and supports the family whereas the husband teaches in a local middle school. The wife often complains to the husband, accusing him of “living in my house and making no contributions to the family”. LW: Nick what do you make of this? NL: I think its very interesting. Obviously we can’t forget that domestic violence against women is still a huge problem, but abuse against anyone is still abuse and should be taken seriously. I think attitudes toward the two things are still very different. It reminds me of a video project that was made in the UK a couple of years ago that I saw that tested attitude toward this among the public. They had two actors – a man and a woman – who pretended to be a couple having an argument in the street. It was recorded from far away like in a CCTV camera so no one knew that they were being filmed. In the first one, the man was slapping the woman and shouting at her. Every passerby was intervening saying ‘what are you doing!?’ and ‘stop that’. In a different street the woman was slapping the man and screaming at him and people were laughing and taking photos. They thought it was all a big joke. LW: I think the important thing to keep in mind is that the reason these cases are big news – the cases of domestic violence against men – is because it still news. It’s still relevant. If we reported every case of domestic violence where women were the victims, I think our newspapers and our news broadcasts would look a lot different. As a result these cases are getting a higher profile than it would otherwise if the genders were reversed. For one, framing it as violence against men or violence against women, some experts have pointed at the fact that it should just be viewed as domestic violence. If you differentiate, you create a space where one is deemed to be more prevalent than the other, [but we should ensure] that there one is not seen to be more acceptable than the other.