20190918EMF我什么都没有，你还在为我的梦想付出

1. There is a huge difference between giving and sacrificing. One makes us happy, and the other makes us miserable. This is why so many of us have resentment towards our spouses, because we give and give and get no appreciation in return. 给予和牺牲相差甚远。前者令人开心，后者让人变得悲惨。这也是为什么很多人总是对自己的另一半心怀怨恨，因为我们不停地付出又付出，还没有得到任何的感谢作为回报。 2. The only time we will categorize something as a ‘sacrifice’ is when we are giving without 100% wanting to, but we do it because we feel that it's ‘for the best’. When you give up your job for your kids, you might categorize that as a sacrifice, so when you're not appreciated for that sacrifice, resentment and unhappiness build up. 我们只有在没有百分之百情愿去付出的时候会把一些事归类为“牺牲”，但是我们这么做是因为我们觉得这是“最好的选择”了。当你为了孩子放弃工作，你可能会把它归为是一种牺牲，所以当你的牺牲不被感激的时候，怨恨和不满就会累积下去。 3. Sacrificing for our kids doesn't make us better parents. Sacrificing for our relationship doesn't make us better partners. It is our ability to be happy, without resentment or guilt that makes us better for the people we love. 为孩子牺牲并不会让我们变成更好的父母。为了我们的感情牺牲并不会让我们变成更好的伴侣。开心才是我们的能力，只有消除怨恨和负罪感，我们才能为自己爱的人变得更好。 4. There is no such thing as sacrificing for love, because when you sacrifice yourself, what do you have left to give? So, always choose to give instead of to sacrifice, and be happy, always. 没有什么所谓的为爱牺牲，因为当你牺牲了你自己的时候，你还有什么留下的去给予呢？所以，要一直付出而不是牺牲，开心一点，要一直开心下去啊。