介绍:
1. As they were doing the homework, I could visibly see that Chandler was getting upset. Sometimes children bottle up what they’re feeling inside and what you get is a secondary emotion, and sometimes that comes out physical with attitude or with aggression.
2. How does that make you feel when Dad yells at you? I am very pleased that you’ve said how it makes you feel because that’s important.
3. When Chandler told me how he was feeling during the homework, it really truly just tore me up inside, you know, cuz I sure as heck don’t want my son, you know, not being able to ask me a question because I yelled at him last year over something in the homework. It was an eye-opener. It didn’t feel good at all.
4. Hey dude, come here! Dad wants to talk to you. Dad doesn’t want you to feel like that, you know, that I’m yelling at you or anything. I know I used to but Dad is gonna change that. If you ever feel that way again, you need to tell me, okay? Right when we’re doing your homework? I love you.
当他们在做作业时，我能明眼看出 Chandler 开始变得烦躁不安了。有时候孩子们会压抑内心的真实感受，而你得到的是一种二级情感，并且有时候，这种情感会以肢体形式表现出来，伴有情绪或者攻击性。
爸爸冲你嚷的时候你是什么感受？我很高兴你说出了你的感受，因为那很重要。
当 Chandler 告诉我他做作业时的感受时，我的内心被撕开了。你懂的，因为我肯定不想让我的儿子因为去年做作业时我为某件事冲他嚷这件事而不敢再问我问题。这件事对我很有启发。这让人感觉很不好。
嘿，小子，过来。爸爸想跟你谈谈。爸爸并不想让你觉得，你知道的，我经常冲你嚷或怎么样。我知道我以前经常这样，但是爸爸会改正。如果你再一次有那样的感受，一定要告诉我，好吗？在我们做作业的时候当场告诉我，好吗？我爱你。
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