Call me by your name

以吾之名，冠汝之姓。这到底是一种怎样的爱呢？对于 Call Me by Your Name 中17岁少年 Elio 和美国大学生 Oliver 之间单纯美好的爱恋， Elio 的父亲又是如何看待的呢？今天我们就一起静静聆听这位慈父的独白，一起体会他对于爱的深刻理解。 When you least expect it, nature has cunning ways of finding our weakest spot. Just remember, I'm here. But now, you may not want to feel anything. Maybe you never wanted to feel anything. And it's not to me you'll want to speak about these things. But feel something you obviously did.  Look, you had a beautiful friendship, maybe more than a friendship. And I envy you. In my place, most parents would hope the whole thing goes away. And pray their sons land on their feet. But I am not such a parent.We rip out so much of ourselves to be cured of things faster that we go bankrupt by the age of thirty. And less to offer each time we start with someone new. But to make yourself feel nothing so as not to feel anything, what a waste!How you live your life is your business. Just remember, our heartsand our bodies are given to us only once.  Before you know it, your heart is worn out, and as for your body, there comes a point no one looks at it, much less wants to come near it. Right now, there's sorrow, pain, don't kill it. And with it, the joy you felt. 爱的反面不是恨，而是冷漠，美的反面不是丑，而是冷漠。信仰的反面不是异端邪说，而是冷漠。生命的反面也不是死亡，而是对生死都持有一种冷漠的态度。